How to Accept Others

How to Accept Others
How to Accept Others

In a world filled with so many different personalities, it can be hard to accept those that rub us the wrong way. We may not like what they have to say or what they believe in so the simplest thing to do to solve it is to make peace with them and accept them for what’s good in them rather than what’s not. You’ll discover that your days will be brighter, happier, and more productive when you learn how to accept those around you.

Tip #1 – Remember it Has Nothing to Do With You
The actions of others really have nothing to do with you. People respond poorly to you based on their own personal, negative experiences. You just happen to be in front of them to take the brunt of it. The next time someone is unkind, take a deep breath and remember this. When you become resistant to the negative actions and opinions of others, you will no longer be caught up in needless suffering in the struggle to accept others.

Tip #2 – Everyone Has Baggage

“If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.”

– Regina Brett

You have problems and the person you struggle to accept has problems. Sometimes that person shows the world this by acting in ways we disagree agree with. But when we recognize that we all respond to our hardships differently, we can come away with greater compassion for someone else’s struggle.

Tip #3 – Diversity Makes the World Go ‘Round
We can’t all be the same. If we didn’t have differences, there would be no room for conversation, learning, or growing. Realize that the person you don’t accept has a story that makes them different too. If you just don’t agree with them at all, accept it and move on. They have their place in the world and you have yours. There’s no rule saying that you must be in each other’s way.

Tip #4 – You’re More Alike Than You Think
Sometimes the only reason we don’t accept because they differ from us, physically, intelligently, racially etc. but don’t let someone’s exterior be the roadblock to discovering their beautiful interior. Someone could look completely different than you but until you actually start a conversation with them, you can’t know them completely. They could share a lot in common with you and you could start a new relationship you wouldn’t have had otherwise if you just open up a little to them.

When you learn to accept others just as they are, you’re also making the bold decision to accept yourself just as you are. We don’t always love ourselves enough to do this. Yet, love begets love. Spread love and acceptance and you’ll receive love and acceptance in return.


  1. I had a friend who would never say she was sorry or apologize àfter hurting me. I have seen her hurt another friend to the point of tears, and this person is the one who had to apologize to the hurtful one. I Finally decided I have enough other wonderful friends who I love being around. So now I just pray for my previous friend.

  2. Sometimes hurting people are not nice or kind. I’ve learned to just keep trying to be kind, you don’t have to lunch with these people, just try to be kind. Not everyone will share their journey. They may be going through something we know nothing about. Rather than spew harsh words or meanness. Just be kind!!
    You will be blessed. Guaranteed. 😉

  3. Liz I totally agree with you, accepting reality of the situation that the outcome may not be what you want but hearing the truth will start the healing process. My husband never wanted to hear my truth cuz his truth was the truth. 3 sides to every story, Your side, my side, and the truth. When all was said, he saw the little things he has tried to forget. He thought that some pieces of the puzzle was lost until I found them…. now that the puzzle is, his mind, being put together he doesn’t want to talk about his darkness.

  4. Acceptance is the answer to all my problems.
    In dialectic behavior therapy it teaches radical Acceptance…
    Accept that there is pain and suffering in life and life won’t be a struggle.
    Easier said than done but worth it.
    A choice

  5. I was married to my second husband almost 29 years. My first marriage , my husband was mentally abusive. I thought the 2nd marriage was wonderful and it was as long as he was in control. It took me about 6 years to realize this. He was even jealous of our son. It seemed as though he had to be constantly reassured and paid attention to. He wanted to be the center of attention everywhere he went. The last four years all he wanted to do was drink and have his family and friends over that drink. I don’t like being around drinking, smoking, or cursing. I realize now that I never fit in his family st all. I worked too hard trying to please all of them and in the end I lost sight of who I was. All I kept hearing was how fat I am, how I am no fun. It is hard to be sexually attentive to your husband when he treats you like a cheap whore.

  6. Very interesting “read” here today. More responses than usual and I’m NOT surprised at all. I share most of your comments and views and want to thank you all for your responses. Life is FULL of up’s ‘n down’s, good and bad and the people around us can either make us or break us IF WE LET THEM. The trick is NOT to let them. I’ve always been a very outgoing and extroverted person. One who sees the glass as half FULL and not half EMPTY. I strive to look for the good in people and, most of the time, I find it even under the most dire of circumstances. It doesn’t always work but most of the time it does. I’ve found the ability to “go with the flow” and most of all “Let go and Let GOD”.

  7. Thank God Daily. Pray for world peace. Love and light. Pray for peace within ourself. Be thankful. Look toward a better future. Stay positive. Love and treat one another as you would like to be treated. Respect yourself and give yourself gifts of peace and love. Don’t forget to breathe. If you do accept that your deserve goodness the universe will provide. Trust in your prayers and faith in the process. Thank God Daily.

  8. Hello, I have been through hell and back with my husband of 30 years. Looks like these last 2 years he really lost his mind. We saw a classmate whom I know, we spoke to him and his wife, we even sat at the table with them n another classmate. Upon leaving I was looking for the host of the party just to say thanks, that is when all hell broke open. My husband accused me of looking for the classmate, he said that I said “you better believe it “…. I don’t recall saying that. I was accused of knowing this person activities, job description, where he shops at, …. the list goes on. He really tripped when he went on Facebook and found that I texted this person happy birthday for 4 years. That was all just happy birthday shout outs… no other conversations, nothing. Out of 365 days, only 1 day is your birthday. I’ve been called Mrs. B!+#h, nasty a$$, a slut, just any name that’s not on anyone’s birth certificate. He didn’t want me to go out, but he could drink every night, 7 days a week 12 beers a night. If i went to a party he accused me of going to see my man, my boo. N my crazy ass would try to defend myself by fussing over his remarks. He has taken a ride to the jail house cuz he came to the club and wanted to drag me out, that was the last straw. I moved out , went back home, peace for 2 weeks then he started again. This time I had 2 men he stated. He told me these things, I abandoned him n the children, I let my mother tell me what to do, I didn’t love my dad, I let the men hug all over me from church, I take to long coming home from work, I think I have a hallo on my head, I’m materialistic, I’m fake, etc. But I started doing something that I was teaching to small CHILDREN. I put on my listening Ears tighter. You know what I heard then? GUILT trip. Everything that he accused me off was what he had done. He wanted me to confess to things but all the while he had done those things. I just never saw them… I was to busy taking care of HIM. I don’t hate myself for not seeing the signs, Im not even mad with nothing he has done because now I see all the guilt coming up. Day after day i hear more, i see more. Yes things are in a process of changing. His new name is, Felisha, bye Felisha. When he is ready to except all his demons he can have his name back and his wife.

  9. I struggle with rejection from my only child my daughter and I feel desperate she has 2 beautiful sons I adore and that love me
    Problem is we live far away and she hates. calling and doesn’t text hardly ever
    I help them out so much when I go there but she is cold she says she loves me but is “too busy” I’m falling apart I can’t accept this it’s going on for years


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