It’s easier than you may think to be attractive or popular. You don’t have to look like a model, crack jokes like a late-night comedian, or think like a rocket scientist. You just have to practice a few friendly habits.
1. Listen — and don’t interrupt.
Almost everybody wants to be heard and to be understood. If you can fill that need, then people will seek you out. Do what many fail to do by focusing completely on what the other person is saying. Don’t look at your phone, don’t get distracted by what is going on around you, and don’t lose focus by getting wrapped up in your own thoughts, rehearsing what you want to say next. Most of all, don’t interrupt other people while they are talking. Let them finish what they want to say. They will reward you with their appreciation and esteem. This is how you build popularity, one person at a time.
2. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
There are going to be things you like and things you dislike about every person. To increase your popularity, give people the benefit of the doubt when you meet them. Don’t jump to negative conclusions. Don’t focus on their annoying traits. Instead, look for the good that is inside every person. Search for the things you have in common and for the things you can admire about the other person. This is a simple attitude shift that can bring big rewards in good feelings and new friendships.
3. Smile and open up your posture.
A lot of communication between people is non-verbal. Uncross your arms and legs and let a warm, genuine smile light up your face, and you will send a powerful signal that you are friendly and approachable. Try it, and see how people will flock to be near you.
4. A simple greeting goes a long way.
Someone who is truly popular is liked not only by their friends, but also by almost everyone they come in contact with. To cultivate that kind of popularity, pay attention to all the people you come across in your day-to-day life. Acknowledge that they are there. A simple “good morning” to a bus driver, someone from another department who you pass in the office hall, or a cashier at the store will add a moment of brightness to their day, and they will be glad to see you again.
What makes you feel attractive? What do you love about yourself?