Has happiness ever felt out of reach for any reason? Maybe you’ve gotten frustrated with yourself for feeling this way. Don’t point the finger at yourself right away though, because some of these happiness myths might have something to do with it…
Myth #1: Happiness Means Being Happy All The Time
We’re human. We’re emotional creatures. We’re bound to have ups and downs. All. Day. Long. It’s natural to feel certain emotions with certain situations.
Picture this: Someone leaves the milk out again. Your response? Some temporary rage! That crap is annoying! Try this one: Amazon delivers your package the day before they said they were. How do you feel? Like it’s like the best day ever, right? Every one of our experiences impacts us in an emotional way. So how could we be a single emotion (happy) all the time?
The truth is, we’re not unhappy people when we experience unpleasant emotions, happiness will return. The ebb and flow of each and every emotion, especially happiness, is to be expected.
Myth #2: Happiness Means Feeling Good
Most dictionary definitions describe happiness as a state of pleasure or contentment. But if this is our impression of happiness, then there can be no such thing as lasting happiness. How long does a good feeling last before frustration, disappointment, anxiety, or irritation enters the picture? Anything meaningful in life, whether it’s building a career, looking after your body, or creating a family, just to name a few examples – will bring painful and frustrating emotions, as well as some very pleasant ones. You can still be a happy person, who experiences emotions that don’t feel so good from time to time. That’s the human experience!
We need a spectrum of highs and lows to truly appreciate both sides. There’s no rain without sun. No night without day. And no smiles without tears.
Myth #3: If You’re Not Happy, There’s Something Wrong With You
More and more of human nature is being labelled as “something wrong” with you, sometimes requiring medication to fix it. The reality is, if you’re not happy, you’re still normal. Life is challenging. Not always, but a lot of the time it is. You’re not defective for feeling that way.
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Most people have an idea in their head about what happiness is supposed to be like, and when their experience of the emotion doesn’t match the expectation, it can mess with our head or be discouraging. Don’t let it be. Just do and believe what works for you.
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