Far too many people believe happiness hinges on attachment to a significant other. If you think it is impossible to be happy while single, it is time to think again. Happiness and companionship are not interdependent. In fact, some singles are eager to argue the lack of attachment to another person is actually the source of their happiness. Here’s how to be happy and single.
View Your Single Status as an Opportunity for Self-Betterment
Singles have much more free time than those who are in relationships. Realize that this free time should be cherished as it will vanish the moment you find your new boyfriend or girlfriend. Fill your free time with hobbies and you won’t dwell on your single status.
More importantly, improving yourself makes you that much more attractive to potential mates.
Understand That a Significant Other is not the Only Possible Relationship
All too often, people assume the lack of a significant other will induce a crippling depression. The truth is we’re all a little bit afraid of being alone. Yet being single does not mean you have to be alone. If you take care of your body and make an effort to be outgoing, you can date every night of the week. Be social and you will strike up friendships with countless individuals. These relationships are surprisingly fulfilling even though they lack the depth provided by a soul mate.
A Chance for Introspection
If you have recently exited a relationship, consider your single status as an opportunity to do some introspection. It is time to be a little bit selfish now that your old flame is gone. Take this opportunity to explore your own thoughts and feelings about anything and everything. You just might gain considerable enjoyment in your newfound “alone time”.
“Singledom” is an Opportunity to Find out What Truly Makes You Happy
Genuine happiness comes from within. Do not allow another person determine whether you are happy, sad or anywhere in between. Understand that anyone who enters your life also has the potential to leave. Find sources of happiness that are not dependent on others. Try new things, engage in activities you’ve never tried before and venture to new places. You will eventually pinpoint sources of happiness that do not hinge on the presence of a significant other. This way, if you enter into a new relationship and end up single at a future point in time, you will have something to fall back on rather than nosedive straight into a downward spiral of loneliness and depression.
Figuring out what gives you happiness aside from a significant other serves to further establish your identity. After all, if you don’t know what truly makes you happy, how can you ever expect another person to understand how to please you?
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