Feeling Lonely? You Won’t After Reading This

Feeling Lonely? You Won’t After Reading This
Feeling Lonely? You Won’t After Reading This

Article at a Glance:

  • Loneliness hits all of us at different times of life, but awareness of it is the first step in combating the sensation.
  • Trying new, non-work-related and group-centered activities is a great way to surround yourself with new people.
  • Extending kindness to strangers will brighten your day and give you an opportunity to connect with someone different.
  • Make time for the activities you love but have been neglecting.

Do you get lonely now and then?

Sometimes you may feel the most alone in the middle of a crowd. You might feel lonely after moving to a new place or after the loss of someone close to you. Loneliness can come from many different places in your life, but is something you can cope with and overcome if you give it a try. You have to light the spark first, but a little time, patience, and effort can help you greet your days with a smile going forward.

Surround Yourself with New People

Taking that first step toward meeting new people can be a little hard, especially if you’re shy, but building relationships is an important step in fighting loneliness. One of the best ways to make new connections is by getting involved in activities outside of work. Try volunteering or joining a musical group, book club, or any other organizations in your area that interest you. Public groups like those on meetup.com and similar sites are a great way to try new things and meet new people with common interests, too. How cool would it be to do what you love and meet new people?

Be Kind

There’s a certain warm feeling of satisfaction that comes from helping others, and this feeling can often help combat loneliness. All it takes is one act of kindness to help boost your confidence and spread positivity to those around you. Once you feel the joy that one simple act of kindness brings, it creates a ripple effect not only to motivate you to do more, but for others to act kindly as well. Talk to the person waiting with you in the coffee shop, buy a snack or meal for the homeless man you pass everyday, or try to strike up a conversation with someone in a shared waiting room. Perhaps you’ll even make a new friend along the way. You’d be surprised just how “small” the world is just by getting to know the person next to you.

Do What You Love

Feeling lonely can tempt you neglect what you enjoy, but it usually won’t solve the problem. Activities you enjoy are outlets you can use to express your emotions. If you acknowledge that you’re lonely and channel it into something you feel passionate about like writing, art, or sports, it can help you refresh and clear your head.

Learning to love your own company? Priceless!

We’ve all felt lonely. Sometimes it’s simply a need to connect with a close family member or friend, but other times it runs deep and we need to take measures to fight it ourselves. Remember to keep being your wonderful and amazing self and you can outweigh your lonely days with joyful ones.

19 COMMENTS

  1. I ALWAYS HAD FRIENDS BUT MOVE TO A AREA WHERE IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO MAKE FRIENDS.THE FEW THAT I HAD MOVED AWAY. I AM OUTGOING AND LIKE BEING WITH PEOPLE. LOST MY HUSBAND LAST YEAR AND NOW MY LIFE HAS CHANGED. HIS COMMENT TO ME WAS ALWAYS THAT I DID NOT NEED FRIENDS BECAUSE WE WERE THE BEST OF FRIENDS.HOWEVER IT IS NO LONGER LIKE THAT. READING YOUR ARTICLE WAS HELPFUL.

    • Hi Elayne, I also lost my husband, two and a half years ago and find myself starting over everyday. I fight loneliness daily and just try to work the minutes…it’s the best I can do. Hang in there!

  2. I really enjoyed reading this article. I have times of loneliness but you are correct because the things you have mention is what I’ve always done when loneliness hit. I guess I’ve learned it at an early age due to the fact that my parents did not raise me. Not that I did not have a great family to raise me but it was always a void in my life so I had to figure out how to survive the loneliness.

  3. I am very lonely. I moved to an exciting entertainment place Las Vegas and still I’m lonely. I have no husband or kids and barely any money so going out often is very hard. I’m an outgoing person and I need to be around people but with limited funds it is very hard to do certain activities I love.

  4. To Terese.
    Thank you. I have done all of the above, from volunteering to being out of my comfort zone hundreds of times to try to meet people.

    In the end I come home alone, and they go home with their families. I have met so many great people along the way but again in the end I come home alone.

    This man with his wife and his daughter, he has nothing to complain about. Because he has somebody to come home to.

    Thank you Terese.

  5. This is so very true! I have tried it and it does work. I was skeptical but now I am not! Thank You for this very good advice!
    Fred May

  6. Yea, sometimes we do feel it, maybe because we are into tough times or an illness etc.. we do feel it!
    But there’s always a way’s to distract our loneliness..
    As for me, a prayer has help me a lot!!
    If you are a believer try it..
    Hope it does for yo!! but do it with all your heart ❤️ Hope also you feel comfortness.

    I always believe in the power of prayer!
    And remember we are bless day by day when we wake up!!

  7. I’ve felt alone and I always try to do something I love to combat the feeling. My PTSD sometimes floods me with emotions and I find comfort in spending time with my beautiful kind wife and our awesome daughter!

    • Wow count your blessings your NOT lonely if you have a wife & daughter. Many people are all alone have NO one. They are divorced getting divorced have no children & their parents are no longer alive. Theyhave NOother family to count on or that are alive etc..etc.. no friends anymore either they moved away died etc.. So your not lonely just not appreciative of whom is in your life, or you aren’t giving them your time love & attention etc.. some MEN don’t value those in their lives & what they have until no one is there & then are truly lonely. They don’t value their children & wives enough & what all they do do for them.

    • Steven,
      I’m impressed with the way you acknowledge that your PTSD is one cause of loneliness, but that you don’t let it keep you from appreciating the blessing and gift you have in a loving wife and awesome daughter! You’re a great example of someone who doesn’t give up in the face of difficult and challenging circumstances. Thanks for sharing and encouraging others by your example!

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