Losing someone is a profound experience. There is no simple way to make the pain of the loss of someone near and dear to you simply go away, but allowing your feelings to fester without dealing with your grief can lead to not only mental and emotional issues but physical problems as well caused by the stress. It’s important to give yourself the time to cope, grieve, and heal. While everyone is different, and there’s no right or wrong way to grieve, but here are 4 ways to work through your feelings if you feel lost and don’t know what direction to go.
Participate in Rituals
People say that funerals are for the living and that’s true. Funerals, memorial services, luncheons, and other ritualistic gatherings are put together so that those who knew your departed loved one can come together, comfort each other, and share memories. Try to participate in at least one of these and find solace in the support network available to you. If groups make you uncomfortable or you simply can’t do it for whatever reason, consider creating your own ritual. Light a candle or do something special that you know they would love in their name.
Chose Productive Outlets
Alcohol and drugs may numb your pain but that relief will be very temporary and could start you down a slippery slope towards additional agony or addiction. Masking your pain is nothing but a band-aid. You’re eventually going to have to rip it off in order to heal, which can be even more painful in the long run. You are entitled to your feelings and you need to feel them to work them through. Exercise, writing, art, or build something — whatever allows you to channel that energy into something productive and personal to you can help you work through those feelings. Putting your feelings of grief into an artform turns them into something tangible.
Talk to Someone
Often, it can feel like you have to be the strong one or hide your feeling and grief. Yet, pushing people away or not caring for your own needs during a rough time can make your journey through grief even more difficult. Find a family member or friend you can talk to about your loved one; it feels good to have someone listen, even if just to share the memories. If you aren’t quite getting the comfort and support you need from family and friends, do not be afraid to seek professional counseling for additional help and advice.